Time is precious and it really does 'fly' as you age. As a teenager however, it seems like time is never ending and your life is stretched before you like a big shiny oyster. In many ways, life is an oyster and but before you take your path don't be surprised if your parents want to hold on to you for a bit longer. If you're a parent reading this, then take note, we won't all coil in retreat if you want to spend time with us on the weekend. Here are a few tips:
Give them a bit of freedom. I don't mean take your credit card and make them 'promise' to not spend more than £30. Let your teenage children just enjoy themselves. Even if it's for a few hours, they'll love you for it, and respect you all the more.
Organise a day dedicated to them. Yep, you feel like you indulge them enough, but money is not an indication of love. Turn an uneventful Saturday into a day where you and your son/daughter spend a day playing on the Playstation, devising a dance routine together, cooking the food they like, together, spending a day trying out different makeup looks, or skateboarding with them. Whatever it is, giving them a day of your undivided attention, and quality time is all that's required.
Let them borrow your clothes/accessories. My dad has a rather pricey, vintage watch that I've always adored from a distance. I wore it once, and he found out and was furious. If he'd only let me borrow it in the first place… you see?
Let them make all the decisions. Trust is a key factor in a parent-teenager relationship. At one point I truly remember thinking my mother was trying to poison me. As long as they know you're not an alien that's trying to 'wreck' their life all should be good. And letting your teenager be the 'adult' for the day allows you to relax a bit – I'm serious. Trust is a reciprocal understanding.
Pearl of wisdom
Relax. It's the weekend so chill out if the kitchen starts to look like their bedroom. You can all clean it up later. At the ripe old age of twenty two, it still gripes me how anal my parents are about cleaning. And I'm not a messy person, but I wish they would just relax a bit. They know when I visit home I'll clean up what I've used within the next half an hour. If they'd only let my food settle first, let me relax. I've no doubt your teenage son/daughter feels the same.