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Published January 15th 2015
If you are in love then you better make it special
No sooner is Christmas over, then starts the advertising for Valentine's gifts. Not to mention the plethora of dining venues advertising special evenings out. There are many options from something simple to extravagant to show your love on this day for lovers. But do women really want all that commercial rubbish. I say no they don't. Valentine's Day is about keeping it simple and all based around love. So this little guide will give you some insight into what women are really wanting on this day. How do I know? Well, I am a woman and have experienced many a Valentine's Day, and I've also asked many women this question over recent weeks as research for this article. So here is my little list of what women really want for Valentine's Day.
Women love attention on Valentine's Day, so do give her some. Image by Shaorn D Pruitt- Creative commons Wikimedia
* Create your own gift: When Valentine's Day began years ago, all a boy would give a girl was a handmade card with the words "be my valentine." If you are creative or arty in any way draw, paint or make her a little something she can treasure for ever. A handmade card is good too. If you are creative in other ways such as writing her a song or a poem, well this is a winner in my books. It might sound mushy to a man but a woman will appreciate your efforts.
A romantic scene in Salzburg, Austria. Image by Miss Kathleen
* A gift voucher: Well this says lazy man to me, however they are useful only if you have been together for a while and have absolutely no idea what to give. Make sure it's for her favourite store, such as perfume or clothing, and she will be happy going off to shop on her on when you are not around that is.
* Cook her a romantic dinner: top marks in my book if you have an established relationship. If it's early days she may consider the offer as an invitation to more than dinner. Great for husbands to organise the kids to go to Grandma and cook his beautiful wife a romantic meal. Doesn't matter what it is, but prepare it before hand so you dont have to be stuck in the kitchen all night or ask her to help you. Remember the candles and a bottle of something nice. Also a good idea for live in gourmets to shop together and whip up something romantic at home together, if you get what I mean.
Red Velvet Cupcake is the perfect sweet treat for Valentines- Image Wikimedia.org
* Make some sweet treats: if you like cooking and she has a sweet tooth, prepare some homemade yummy treats such as coconut ice or rocky road and put them in a pretty jar or box with a ribbon, wrapped in pink or red. Attach a little gift card with something corny like "I'm still sweet on you- be my Valentine for another year". Leave them on her doorstep and she will melt like chocolate in your arms when you next see her.
* Buy her flowers: This was the most popular with the girls I asked. Nothing says I love you more than flowers. Pick some up at the markets or from a florist a couple of days before, as on the big day there wont be much left and they are very busy. Delivered is good, but your lady will be waiting most of the day wondering if you have forgotton her until the order arrives. Best to buy your own.
Flowers for a woman spell romance. Image from wikimedia.org
* Breakfast In Bed: Ah yes, the lament of every busy Mum, a morning in bed is something most of us long for.This is a great one for those in live in relationships who spend most of their mornings rushing off to work like ships in a busy harbor. Get up early and tell her to stay in bed. Grab some croissants at the bakery and have on hand some home made jam, fresh juice, and sliced fruit. While heating them in the oven, make a pot of special tea- too easy! Make sure you have a tray with napkins and a single rose in a small vase. A small heart card will say it all. With this one you might get lucky stay there all day.
"The breakfast tray"c.1910 by Elizabeth Okie Paxton. Image from wikimedia.org
A Romantic Drive: This is a good one for those newly dating. Take her somewhere for a drive and a simple picnic. Pop a valentine card in the basket. Research where to go and know where some toilets are, because women always need a loo, and remember a blanket to sit on. She will be dressed up for you and won't want grass stains on her pretty sundress.
Fill a picnic basket with her favoutite foods and head out for a day of romance. Image from wikimedia.org
* Lover's Padlocks: If you are at the stage you believe your love is needing some symbol of commitment, purchase a solid padlock such as a brass one and have it engraved with your names and the date. Go for a stroll in the park, have an ice cream or a coffee somewhere, and just when she is thinking you have forgotten the big day altogether, declare your undying love and whip out the padlock. Walk to the bridge, lock the padlock in the spot you both choose, each hold a key make a wish, then toss your keys into the river to seal your love.
Almost every city has a bridge lovers have claimed for their padlock of love. Image by Miss Kathleen.
* Send an anonymous Valentine Card: This is for the shy men. Oh believe me women really love this. Perhaps there is someone you are keen on, but are unsure of how to proceed, or maybe you just want to brighten up someone's day. I received a card in a red envelope on Valentine's Day once years ago in my letterbox not signed. I have kept it in my keepsafe box and look at it now and again and still wonder who sent it. Creating some mystery is fun, however to avoid her having feelings of being stalked, its probably an idea to follow up on it a week or so later and ask her on a date, using the line, "hey you know that Valentine's Card you got...." What are you waiting for?
A vintage Valentine dated.1862, the greeting inside says "good morrow valentine
* Make time for her: My final suggestion for the male readers, is what true love is about, and that's sharing and being together. If you are normally working or busy take some time off, make a date, make the time to be with her and tell her that you love her until next Valentine's Day and beyond.
And for the women reading this, don't you be the one cooking for him and running around with scissors and sticky fingers cutting and gluing hearts out of red cardboard. That sort of thing is fun once he is yours, but If you are in the early stages of a relationship, and want to know what a man really thinks of you and if his love is true, sit back and wait for him to make the moves.