If you're a straight, single woman in this city, chances are that you're looking for love or for a good time. Either way, mingling with the males of the species is called for, so we've put together a list of the best places in Melbourne to meet the gents.
Speed Dating If you're a busy city woman looking for a man and you don't want to mess about with scouting for one, it's possible that speed dating is for you. Instead of playing the field you can narrow it down by selecting a speed dating event that suits you. Most speed dating agencies will assign men to different groups so you can choose which one to attend by the age and interests of the participants. Now, they can't do all the work for you, so if you're hoping to choose the group called 'Incredibly Attractive, Financially Stable, Funny, Faithful, Romantic, Experts in the Bedroom', you won't have much luck. Nevertheless, speed dating generally has a good rep for making matches, with the average woman attracting interest from up to 50% of the night's dates.
On the other hand, if the contrived environment of speed dating doesn't take your fancy and you prefer to treat it as a spectator sport rather than a serious way to meet men, you may be better suited to letting things unfold as they will at one of Melbourne's many bars. The kind of men you meet will depend greatly on the type of establishment you choose. If you want to be able to take a seat and partake in some laid-back conversation, check out some of Melbourne's Best Beer Gardens; if you're keen to get jiggy and have a laugh, take a look at Melbourne's Irish Pubs; if you want to mix and mingle in a more refined setting, try one of the Best Wine Bars in Melbourne; and if it's what you want and you think you can handle it, head on in to any or all of Melbourne's Grungiest Nightspots.
Improving the Odds
If you go somewhere where the ratio of men to women is ten to one, you have a better chance of getting lucky. Try the Melbourne Grand Prix, football and cricket matches at the MCG, car shows and places where there are congregations of boys playing with toys, such as Apple stores and electronics shops. If you're looking for a screw (for some home repairs) then a hardware store could be a promising place to potentially nail a male.
Snaring Interest with Shared Interests Keep a look out next time you're doing something you love in Melbourne someone might catch your eye, and you'll have the bonus of knowing you already have something in common. Strike up a conversation with a likely looking lad browsing your favourite bookshop, dance with a fellow band fan at a gig, get down to business at an industry conference, spark some puppy love at a dog beach or park, or flirt with someone intoxicating at your wine appreciation course.
Putting Your Hand Up Forget shaking your booty start rattling your tin. Volunteering for charity is not only a good deed, it could help you meet loads of men. Just imagine how easy it could be to find Mr Right if you have a sound reason to go knocking on every door from Elsternwick to Brunswick. Of course, you can't forget you're on a noble mission, so a three-hour chat in his doorway is out. At least you know where Prince Charming lives - you can stake his house out later.
Taking a Journey of Love Instead of engaging in covert people watching, calling your mother or pretending to sleep while travelling to and from work, make your trip a lot more interesting by checking out your fellow passengers. You may find that there is someone with potential who regularly catches the same tram or train as you. Initiate a conversation with him about the book he's reading or what you saw him watching last night on TV when you followed him home from his stop and spied on him through his living room window. Alright don't talk about that last one stick to his book but you get the idea. He'll recognise you again the next day, you'll smile across the aisle, and soon enough, you'll be walking down one. Or, he'll suddenly call his mother or pretend to fall asleep, and you'll end up having to take the earlier tram to avoid him but it's worth a try.
Getting Friendly Through Mutual Friends One of the best places to meet a mate is through your mates. Dinner parties, birthday parties, weddings and funerals (it's been known to happen) are good places to get to know someone, both by chatting to them during the evening and grilling your mutual friend for information the next morning.
Evidently, there are many places to meet men in Melbourne all you need to do is be open to opportunities, see where they take you and above all, enjoy the ride.
You know what melbourne lacks ? A decent dating agency, aka the Chinese type. Whereby, parties are arranged for large groups of Australian men and women to congregate! The staff running the show can also matchmake in the traditional way. But not for ridiculous fees. I used to go to Ms Gongs Chinese matchmaking parties organized from Box Hill. White Australians are behind the eight-ball !