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I'm a part time actor and part time writer living in Perth. I love being on stage. I love going out with friends, doesn't matter what we do
Published July 27th 2015
If you're going on a first date, here are some tips
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We all have first dates, and they can leave many of us a nervous wreaks. There are many unknowns when it comes to first dates that you often think about; will your date like you; will you have things in common; will he/she be funny; will you have anything in common? We all know that the most important thing to remember is to be yourself, but there are some things that you should NEVER do if you want to ensure a second date.

1. Don't be gross

A first date is not an appropriate time to show your date how comfortable you are in your own body and all its...... functions. This date is not a good time to belch, pick your nose or fart, these are just gross and doing any of them won't leave a good impression on your date.

2. Don't go on your date drunk

You may think having a drink or two before your big date will be a good way to help you relax, but it's probably not. You want your mind to be as sharp as possible when you're meeting someone for the first time, and that drink or two can make that edge disappear. Use any nerves you many have to show off your wit and humour to your date, not your lack of alcohol control.

3. Do not eat garlic

We all now how much garlic smells, and do you want your date smelling that on you! Remember you need and want to smell fresh all over, but especially from your mouth if you're going to be doing a bit of talking. Be careful what you but into mouth (although if the date isn't going that well, garlic can be your friend)

4. Don't order messy foods

Wearing your meal isn't attractive at anytime, so when on your first date try to avoid messy foods such as spaghetti.

5. Be careful what topics you talk about

First dates are NOT the time to discuss things such as marriage, babies, past relationships or meeting the family. The subjects of marriage, babies and meeting the family are the best ways to scare off your date and make them feel really uncomfortable. Try to avoid talking about past relationships, but if they do happen to come up, be careful how to talk about your exes.

6. Don't bring your kids

Yes they are a big part of your life, knowing how they interact with your date and how your date interacts with them is important, but the first date is not the best time to do that. As cute and handsome as they are, kids are a distraction and there are subjects you can't bring up in front of them.

7. If you have kids, don't forget to mention you have them

While it's important not to bring your kids along to your first date, it's also very important to let your date know if you actually have them. Not mentioning you have them is dishonest and dubious, your date needs to know what they are getting into before they decide to pursue any further relationship.

8. Don't talk about sex

Unless of course this is the only thing your looking for at the end of your date. Long lasting relationships are build on strong foundations such as trust, understanding and companionship. Sex is not a solid foundation on which a long term relationship can start.

9. Do not talk about your problems

Your first date shouldn't be treated like a therapy session, so don't moan and groan about your problems with your date. It's very annoying and unattractive to your date. The early part of dating is supposed to be fun for both parties, where you get to know each other, not whine.

10. Don't be late

Your consider you time to be precious, so remember that when it comes to dating. Being late for your date is disrespectful, as with being late for anything. If you are running late for your date, let your date know as early as you can, not when you are actually supposed to be there; it's also best done with a phone call. Also don't cancel at the last minute.

11. Don't go out in dirty clothes

Now this one really should be obvious. It doesn't matter how bad your day has been, you need to respect yourself for your date and present yourself in the best possible way, so don't go out in dirty, wrinkled clothing.

12. Make sure your date gets home safely

Now you may not be able to drive your date home, but ensure they get into a taxi, or to their own car safely.

13. Do not flirt with other people

This is big no no. Your attention should be focus soley on the person you are out with. Don't insult your date by a) not paying attention to them or b) telling your date someone else deserves your attention. That's just plain rude.

14. Don't complain about the bill

This is less about being pretentious and more about being discreet. Make sure you have enough money on you to pay the bill, or at least your half if you're splitting the bill, so you're not caught by surprise.

15. Do not tell your date that your in love

This is not something you want to do on your first date, you're going to freak your date out. Even if you believe in love at first sight, those three little words are so powerful and carry a host of implications and expectations. Save the words for when your relationship is official.
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