Let's be honest, relationships sometimes require a bit of spice to bring out a fuller bodied flavour. Having a special date night set aside just to indulge in each other's company is a great idea but it may not be enough anymore, so here are five fun tips to try. Some may work for you and some may turn out limp, but they might just push you to try adding your own hot and spicy ingredient to your date nights.
The Kiss - image Wikimedia
Simply Scrumptious Kisses The art of kissing is as old as time but it is date night so let's spice it up. Rich dark chocolates or juicy fresh strawberries add an exotic richness if popped in the mouth just before a kiss. Confectionary snakes or liquorice allsorts might be your choice for a sweet bit of fun. Try them all, whatever your sweet tooth desires. Or try coating lips in honey, or peanut butter if you prefer (best go with the smooth instead of crunchy), for a sticky smooch.
I scream, you scream, you will both scream for Ice cream. Cold, sticky and sweet, chocolate or vanilla. You are only limited by your imagination ... and any allergies you might suffer from.
Board Games After the kids have gone to bed, drag out their board games and get playing. We all know Strip Poker can be a hoot but really any game can be spiced up for date night as long as it is fun and the stakes are worth it. For example, snakes and ladders can be amusing, especially if you lose and have to slide down or imagine the possibilities of throwing YATZEE.
Before you begin, get thinking as to what you're playing for and ultimately what the winner's prize will be. Remember to keep it fun, it isn't about winning, especially as you will ultimately both be winners.
No board games, no worries. Blind Man's Bluff or Hide and Seek take on a whole new feeling if you want to spice up date night.
Massages You don't have to be a trained masseur to rub some romance back into date night. You just need some scented candles, soft music, warm hands and a bottle of oil. For a special someone try using an edible oil by infusing Almond Oil bought from your local supermarket or health food shop infused with vanilla bean and crushed rose petals. That way, if your massage ends in a kiss the chemicals won't render your lips numb ... or worse.
Peppermint oil rubbed into clean, tired feet can be very sensual for some, so if your date isn't particularly ticklish and enjoys having their soles seduced, start at the ankles, the heels and finally each and every toe, wee wee wee all the way home.
Remember, after a hard, long day at work, a hot shower or bath and a gentle massage is a perfect way to end the day ... or start the night.
Kiss - image from Wikimedia
Glamp it Up
Ok .. camping might not be everybody's idea of romance but when you have a million stars smiling down on you and the nocturnal wildlife serenading how can you not fall in love.
Whether you pitch up in the backyard or in one of the many National Parks, get the old tent out, grab as many soft quilts, cushions, pillows and padding as you can, some LED light candles, maybe an old mosquito net , some throw rugs, a bear skin if you have it and let your imagination run wild. Turn that old bit of canvas into a Bedouin tent or a five star tepee.
Fill the esky with ice to keep the champagne, strawberries and cheese chilled – just remember to get rid of the fishy smell first – and wait for the stars to shoot above you.
The Sheik - image from Wikimedia
If it has been so long since your last real date together ... or your first date was forgettable, just take two and try again.
If you really want to add some spice, dress up and book somewhere fancy, where no-one knows your name, not even your date. Try to turn up separately and only introduce yourself when you are seated at the table. Remember, you can be whoever you want. If you want to be Fifty Shades of Grey, Pretty Woman or James Bond, the girl next door or the high school sports star. Be outrageous or be real, the only rules are the one you both agree on.
It may take time for your inner character to emerge and your first date might not go well but the beauty of this is ... you can go on the first date over and over again. Repeat what works for you both and discuss what didn't. Laugh at what went wrong and delight in what went right. And remember, there is no shame in going home and spending the night together at the end of this first date.