Being single has its advantages. Plenty of time to catch up with friends and family, and focus on your career. No need to compromise every little thing you do with another person. Much more room to be spontaneous.
Yet, there are times when even the most satisfied singleton wants to dip a toe back in the dating scene. Whether you're looking for true love or just a chance to meet new people and have fun, here are a few suggestions to get you started.
[ADVERT]You'll notice all my suggestions involve meeting people face-to-face. Now, I'm not prejudiced against the online dating scene - an increasing number of my friends are finding love on the internet. I just figure those websites get quite enough air-time with their endless TV advertising, so I wanted to explore some different ideas.
It's an unjust city; I really struggled to find options in Sydney for gay and lesbian singles. If readers know of groups, classes or events for boys to meet boys and girls to meet girls, please post in the comments.
If a blind date, or 'fix up', sounds like some sort of pressure-filled hell, maybe meeting people in a group is more your style. The idea is to do something fun with a bunch of other single people. If you hit it off with someone, great. If not, at least you've been out and had a good time.
There are groups in Sydney pitched at all sorts of demographics, with all sorts of activities so you can choose something that suits your style. For example:
There are a bunch of classes out there pitched specifically at singles. Again, this is about taking the pressure off. No awkward silences, or feeling like you're asking the same "So, what do you do?" type questions over and over. Instead, conversation will flow easily because you've got something natural to talk about.
The most common of these are cooking classes, such as Spice Up Your Life. Or, if you'd rather be up and moving around, you could try a dance class.
OK, so people do complain that speed dating is like conducting job interviews for a relationship. Five minutes across a table waiting for a bell to 'ding' might not be the ideal way to meet someone - but it is certainly efficient. It's also a lot better than spending 3 hours on a blind date with someone who's totally incompatible.
Some speed date organisers improve your chances of meeting someone compatible by having nights with a theme. Check out Fast Impressions, who hold speed dating events with themes like 'globe trotters', 'fit and trim', or 'university educated'.
Other organisers help you avoid any potential awkwardness or conversation lapses, by including an activity. For example, you might have dinner, where each course is with a different prospective partner.
Going to a singles night at your local bar or club can be a bit of a meat market, but hey, I'm not judging - maybe that's exactly what you're looking for. Notorious online dating website, RSVP, has a range of singles parties and events you can check out. It's also worth asking at your favourite venue - lots of places have occasional events, so why not find out?
If your urge to meet people has everything to do with sex, and nothing to do with matrimony, maybe it's time to think outside the box a little. Plenty of swingers clubs welcome singles along with couples, especially women. For a full range of options, check out this dedicated Sydney-swingers article.