Camille is a freelance ghost blog and web content writer. She's also a musician and an "Autoimmunee". She loves learning and sharing about how to live life with positive energy and meaning.
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Published August 9th 2012
Time to get creative ladies
Who says being romantic is just the guy's job? Think your relationship has become a little stagnant on the romance side?
Instead of waiting for your guy to somehow read your thoughts and come up with your dream romantic gesture, why not try taking the reins once in a while?
By being romantic yourself, you can not only inspire him to be romantic too, but you can have the power to come up with heaps of dazzling ideas to get him in the mood for romance.
Not everyone has built-in romanticness but that doesn't mean they won't enjoy it. Some guys would even say they don't know how to be romantic, so why not teach them in the ways of love? It's just as fun surprising him with some quirky date ideas as it is for him, so set the pace, add a little competitive edge to get him trying some new things too.
Don't think others would find your ideas romantic? Don't worry about it, it's your romance, make your own traditions. You might feel silly but sometimes the silliest things become your greatest relationship traditions (e.g always kissing at a red light)
Here are some great ways to start your brainstorming, add little details yourself, got a favourite song or a perfume he loves you wearing? Make these creative ways to be romantic your own, it's all in the little details that set your romance apart.
1. Treasure Hunts
My fiancÚ loves these. He's had his turns creating the most awesome treasure hunts. But I love making them too.
Add the excitement of finding things, as our men were born hunters you know. Just like when we were children, the novelty of a treasure hunt never wears off. You can make it a little more, shall I say, adult rated by getting him to search for thing you probably wouldn't think of a prize when you were little. In our treasure hunts, my fiancÚ and I like to write cue cards hidden for each other to find.
For example, you can get him to do a treasure hunt just in your room, hide the cards with little riddles on each of them to find the next clue. Leading him to a variety of items, like strawberries, glasses and rose petals to name a few. To go even more grandeur, take the treasure hunt outside.
We tried doing this in the city and it was great fun! We ended up at the Sciencentre (Queensland Museum South Bank) he had never been to but had always wanted to, we got lost on a bus, and one clue ended up at the Roma Street Parklands. Each stop had items he had to find which we would be using at the end of the date.
He had to decipher the clue on the right which landed us in the Roma St. Parklands - btw, the item which I couldn't fit in the photo was a foot scrub hehe
The more personal the ideas, the better, as they show your partner you're listening and appreciate him. Not all treasure hunts will go as planned, but that's even better, add a bit of spontaneity and some tough riddles to get him totally consumed with your romantic idea.
2. Read to Him
It's a rainy day, and you both just want to stay in bed, or hang out in the living room. If you're a book worm like me, why not read out loud to him? Have a date at home.
This romantic idea came to my fiancÚ and I on a rainy day not too long ago. To spice things up, I read aloud a romance novel I had been dying to read, and so I thought why not share this experience with him? Let him know what all this fuss is about with women and romance novels.
To make this a proper date - create a picnic sort of set-up in the middle of your living room. Use throw pillows, fluffy blankets, and get your books ready. In addition to a home-cooked meal (as my mother says, the way to a man's heart is through his stomach), this is the perfect atmosphere for a loving date.
Then it's time to read aloud. It's great fun, choose a sexy chapter from a book you like, and inspire him to see romance from a women's point of view. He can add his own story lines, or you can both laugh at how absurd the heroine in the novel acts when the hero announces his undying love for her. Romance novels can be a bit silly, but also extremely sexy - enjoy them together and in the comfort of your own home.
Heard of the latest sizzle to hit women's bookshelves?
Similar to treasure hunts, this romantic idea is where you take the reins! Plan a date, whether just for the morning, afternoon or night, or the whole weekend if you prefer. And when I say take the reins, you've got to put in some work girl. Every little detail from where you're going to eat, to what activities, and the precise timing, this date is all on you.
Create some ground rules, such as he can't ask where he's going and has to just go along with what you have planned. It will add a bit of mystery to the date and you'll have so much fun watching him trying to guess what's going to happen next.
My fiancÚ and I made this romantic idea personal to us by calling it a 'Feliz Day' or happy day translate in English. It's a date dedicated to making the other happy.
Candelit Dinner - set by yours truly
There are hundreds of more unique and romantic date ideas I'm sure you can think of. The idea is to make dates tailored and unique to your own relationship and not always relying on him to read your mind. Good luck and I hope your dates from now on will have much more meaning and excitement.