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Published January 1st 2013
Are you considering trying out internet dating?
Recently I had come to the decision to give dating a go. And apparently, people who have rather busy lives meet one another online now as opposed to introductions. Well here is my thoughts of the following sites after a month of trialling them out.
One of the eHarmony 'success' stories.
eHarmony This dating site is best known for its detailed survey they do on you before you can even start looking for people. The first time I ever used them it was just after a break up and I was feeling very down. So I never had a match, and was not even allowed to redo it a few months later when I was in the right frame of mind. So their survey does work (to a degree), just make sure you are in a good mood when doing your survey.
The quality of matches are the best of all the sites. However it is the same old story, the guys that I find attractive are not interested in me and the guys who I don't keep contacting me. Now I am not a shallow woman at all. I kinda like that geeky look, as long as there is confidence behind them.
Likes: The quality of matches compared to other sites is better.
Guided communication. This is a great way to break the ice through a get to know you before actually talking method.
Dislikes: How they purposely take a while to send you matches. While they can argue that this is not to overwhelm you, we know this is so you have to stay on the membership train longer.
The layout is confusing and terrible. It is hard to me to find people again. I have no idea how their system works, even after a month of use.
Zoosk: This is the one that I dislike the most. It is either too hard to navigate and understand or there is absolutely no way to filter out the type of people who can contact you.
Personally I am not a fan of receiving multiple requests from boys just out of high school. Yes, I agree that this is exactly what some of you are after, but I much prefer guys older than me. But in saying that, not 20 years my senior. Really, I don't have anything positive to say about this site. Sorry.
RSVP: In all honesty I avoid this like the plague because I know an ex-boyfriend uses it. Sad excuse I know. Though I did attend one of their 'Singles Nights' recently. *Cough* Yes well, you can read about that on another review I have done.
POF: If you are after more of a hook up, than this is your site. You will find that people ready for a meet-up there and then for a quickie or a late night D&M with a random.
I found eHarmony and Zoosk to be overpriced. $60 month is pretty bad - praying on peoples hope and dreams (I whinge because I have already paid this money). RSVP on the other hand was more reasonably priced. POF though is free.
My advice to men out there - photos are important. Take time to choose and get a female's opinion of the photos you choose. Don't put up group photos (it's hard to know who you are), especially if these people are females. It's a turn off seeing a guy with his arms wrapped around a woman you do not know. Yes it may be your sister, but it could also be an ex-lover you have not yet gotten over.
Also I have noticed that people seem to feel safe enough to attack you for no reason. Don't take this personally, this is due to their own self esteem issues or their attempt to guilt you into giving them attention. Don't fall for it, and run in the opposite direction.
So what is my final verdict? Yes, internet dating has proven to work, but it is obviously not for everyone. Especially when you have to weed past those who are only after one thing.