Camille is a freelance ghost blog and web content writer. She's also a musician and an "Autoimmunee". She loves learning and sharing about how to live life with positive energy and meaning.
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Published July 17th 2012
'Miss Advised' is the the new show that's definitely got me thinking and a lot of girlfriend groups (think 'Sex and the City') talking.
While there are some parts of this reality show, which is about relationships, that I can't really relate to (well, I've never really been single, as I have been happily and passionately in love with my husband-to-be aka fiancé since I was in my teens), but I couldn't help but watch the three beautiful, funny and intelligent women this series concerns, as they remind me of my own set of friends and the obstacles and trials that love, or should I really say the 'dating world', presents.
Just a quick comment, don't disregard Miss Advised because it is a reality show - it's really quite good and not at all like some of the reality 'rubbish' floating around on TV.
If you haven't heard of this TV show and you're in a relationship, single, have a 'it's complicated' status on Facebook and in your 20s or 30s, watch this show. I've only just watched the first episode (and there are already a few out) and I am already hooked!
Dating seems to be something (from both sexes – male and female) that most of us seem to find a mystery, well confusing to say the least. Personally, while I sometimes have those days when I am a tad bit confused (which is rare), I feel very humbled and lucky, because I feel, I do have the perfect partner. Well, the perfect partner for me that is. There is no 'perfect' man or woman out there.
In fact. I know that while I'm definitely not perfect, no one else is either. We all have our shortcomings, but we also have our beautiful sides of ourselves - the side of us that makes someone of the opposite sex (or the same sex, whatever floats your boat if you know what I mean) think "I don't care what your shortcomings may be, I love you even so or because of them".
Just like one the characters of the show, Julia. She has a semi-secret obsession with Tutus - how cute is that? Wouldn't it be great for her to find a husband to love not only her but understand her little passion for the flirty, flamboyant skirts? You might be thinking, I have no idea what you're talking about Lariana, but don't worry, you'll understand this little reference when you watch the show.
Dating should end up like the left photo...but a lot of the time it ends up like the right photo, did someone say awkward?
Anyways, my point is, personally I think love, infatuation, amazing sex, or whatever it is you're looking for, can come at any point in your life; at the same time, and each time or the only time will be different (there's a lot of options as you can see). If you believe you're lucky (like I believe I am) you may just find that someone who can be your very best friend, but also be a sexy, crazy good lover and you'll feel like your life is pretty much complete. If not, well have no fear because every relationship is different (keyword of this paragraph is: different) and every person is different. We're all looking for that something different. Which doesn't mean you can't have the same, or similar type of love, just that if it hasn't come yet, don't despair, things have a way of working out sometimes, most times.
Back to this new TV show, that I already can't get enough of. The show follows three (and single, mind you) relationship "experts" namely Emily, who hosts a radio show called 'Sex with Emily' in San Francisco, then there's Amy, a much sought-out Matchmaker in New York, and finally, Julia, a dating columnist now living is LA. All three women have great personalities and have their own philosophies of how dating and love should be.
Emily doesn't believe in monogamy, while Amy believes that there are rules to be followed in order to start and continue having a successful relationship (which pretty much means the two people become and stay deeply in love no matter what, as long as they follow set 'rules'). This idea seems a little flawed to me, because things will happen where you won't be able to follow rules all the time and besides, some of her rules are downright silly at times if you ask me. After you develop a relationship some of the rules will have been thrown out the door – there should be no secrets! – but that's just me. I like honesty in a relationship, as long as it's not something bad like he doesn't really love you. But then at the same time honesty would be good at that point of time, at least you wouldn't waste so many years with some guy that didn't really love you.
There's finally, Julia. Oh dear, Julia. She has a "list". I'm sure you've heard about it? It's pretty much a list of all the qualities that your dream mate, or date, should have. But being realistic, while I'm sure lots of women out there have a sort of pros and cons "list", do you think you also fit your dream person's list? I like to think my partner pretty much ticks off my imaginary list, in fact I even tried to write one just today after watching this show and decided to stop because I couldn't think of any cons (which is probably biased) – because I am so hopelessly in love. Ha! Whoops getting a little bit off topic. Back to the pilot episode and my overall consensus about this show.
The first episode introduces viewers to these three "experts" and how they don't always practice what they preach. The show even tells you in the introduction that they pretty much have no idea in their own situations, which is pretty cute, since it shows that even "experts" have struggles when they personally are involved.
It's easy to give advice, but to follow it yourself, is not so easy right? For example, take Amy. In the pilot episode she shows that she doesn't always follow her own rules. Does that always have to be a bad thing? The answer may be 'yes' more times than it is 'no'. But hey that's life right? It's all very exciting and I just love this show!
I won't give too much away, because I'd rather you get addicted to this show as much as I am right now. Check your local/pay TV guide to find the schedule of when this show is on for you or via Online Streaming with Amazon or iTunes.
Yep, I think this show is really interesting. Like I said in the beginning, while I don't agree with everything, it's definitely thought provoking, gives you an idea on other people's opinions and shows people opening up in a very personal way. It's like watching your best gal pals hash it out, talk about love, talk about sex - seriously there are no boundaries.