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The perils of online dating in the new millenium
Catch 'Insanity' by Isobel Yates in the Melbourne Cabaret Fringe Festival at The Butterfly Club until 14 July. Book your tickets here.
Isobel Yates performs 'Insanity'
Opening night of 'Insanity' by Isobel Yates, was flanked by an adoring audience, sharing the love of what it is like to 'not be in love'.
Dating in the millennia is not as free and easy as swiping left or right. Isobel steps us through the perils and 'insanity' of her dating life from finding out her first school crush is gay, to an awkward bath with a lover, whilst his parents are home.
The anxiety of 'putting yourself out there' online is enough to send you round the twist, turn to alcohol, and other desperate measures. But let's face it, there's a lot of digital transactions that never evolve to any meaningful connection. Dating is synonymous with risk-taking and feeling uncomfortable, yet Isobel persists with the hope there is a book-loving freak like herself left in the world, who is male, heterosexual and available for a relationship.
According to 'Insanity' you're damned to loneliness or non-committal sexual hook-ups if you Tinder, and damned if you don't. It's a no-win situation for millennials entering their thirties, who may want to settle down and nest.
This is a sweet show about the loneliness and anxiety of the single life – when you don't want to be alone, and you hold some feminist principles and a brain, but still have the need to connect with The Second Sex (i.e. Simone De Beauvoir 1949). However, reading books in your pyjamas doesn't make the cut for a long-term serious gig with another human, in this digital age.
What do we do?
Isobel's storytelling is authentic and endearing with some cheeky humour and insights into the perils of dating – but we are given no resolution to this dilemma. Alas, we are left hanging – stood up by our date who hasn't turned up to the restaurant or waiting for a text message 'after-great-sex' to know whether our lover is even interested.
But it's worth a look – and hey, if you're looking for a smart, pretty girlfriend or boyfriend who likes the arts, then she-he-ze is likely to be in the audience of this show – just waiting for you to ask them out.
So get your good dress on and take your dating search to The Butterfly Club - where some humans choose to 'actually' meet.