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How to Survive Valentine's Day Without a Valentine

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by Fiona Anderson (subscribe)
A Melbourne based writer who is a travel junkie, dedicated foodie and emerging photographer.
Be your own Valentine
Oh nooooooo, here it comes again, that dreaded day of the year! You can feel your heart racing.... not with anticipation but with dread. Because, alas, you don't have a special other to share Valentine's Day with. There's so much hype about it, so much pressure from the media, florists, restaurants, hotels etc. How do you get through Valentine's Day without a Valentine?

First thing is to avoid places where there will be lots of couples doing their couple-y things. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES go to a restaurant. Especially one with low lighting, white linen and a rose on every table.

Lonely diner
Dining alone.... (Image credit: debspoons on

Another approach (perhaps more constructive than the avoidance strategy) is that you be your OWN Valentine! I don't mean sending yourself a card or flowers (well, go ahead if you want to), but rather take a moment to recognise what an awesome and worthwhile person you are, and therefore acknowledge that you deserve to be spoilt on V-Day. If there's no-one else to do it, do it for yourself!

What are the things you can do that make you happy? Schedule them for V-Day. Here are a few thoughts.


Get your hair done. Get a new style or colour. Make sure you ask for an extra long head massage when your hairdresser washes your hair.

Head massage
Have a looooong head massage (Image credit: Marin on

Or, book in for a full body massage. I love a Tibetan hot stone massage. If you haven't tried one, now is a good time.


Go to see a movie. Just not a rom-com! Action or horror only.

Run away for the weekend. Preferably somewhere that no-one's heard of V-Day. (There must be such a place somewhere?) Alternatively, start to plan your next holiday (that always makes me happy!). If you don't have a travel buddy and don't want to go alone, look at group travel options.

Plan a holiday
Plan a holiday (Image credit: Grant Cochrane on

Generate endorphins

Do a workout in a gym, go for a run or a long bike ride. Make it a TOUGH workout. And then kick back and enjoy the endorphin induced sense of happiness.


If you have a few friends who are similarly Valentine-less, have a party and do anything that doesn't relate to Valentine's Day. Or, have an anti-Valentine theme - heart balloons that can be popped, a heart shaped piñata that everyone can have fun destroying - let your imagination go wild.


For the ultimate indulgence, go to the chocolate and shiraz soiree at the Sofitel. YES it is billed as a Valentine's Day event, but wow, for me, that combination is like heaven! Grab a friend and go.

The beauty of nature

Be in nature. Find a great spot to watch the sunset or go for a walk along the beach, a river or somewhere there is natural beauty. It never fails to lift my spirits.

Beautiful sunset
Appreciate the beauty of nature (Image credit: 9comeback on

If all else fails, remember it's just another day on the calendar. There's always next year. And with or without a Valentine, you're still an awesome person.
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Why? For Valentine's Day happiness
When: 14 February
Where: Somewhere away from canoodling couples
Cost: Various
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