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Published May 30th 2013
Been in a break-up recently? Did she make you feel like you're a piece of garbage thrown in the wrong trash can? Did she mention anything about you not putting enough effort? Or that it's her, not you? Did she promise that there's no one else, but for some reason two weeks after the break-up she's seen with another guy?
It matters not. What matters is you, let's use this time to contemplate our own lives, don't jump into a new relationship straight away. Maybe this break-up isn't so bad. Instead let Melbourne City help.
1. Walks along the Yarra River (or Melbourne Parks if you don't like water)
Let's use this time to think about what you want, what went wrong, and what you can learn from it. Wear comfortable shoes and wear thick clothes to keep yourself warm. When you walk along the river, don't forget to keep your head up, enjoy the Melbourne skyline, see what other people are doing, watch the black swans swimming in the cold water. Take a seat at one of the benches along the river, don't forget to bring your iPod. This is where you have to realize that you're no longer together. Besides, when was the last time you could enjoy your own company without anyone texting you every five minutes? See, being single is not so bad.
Eating cures everything. We eat when we're hungry, we eat when we're bored, we eat to celebrate and we eat when we're sad. Did your ex-boyfriend (yes it's 'ex' now, get used to it) ever wake up early enough to have brunch with you at The Hardware Societe or Proud Mary? No? Then go with your girlfriends and brunch away. Did your ex-girlfriend (who is clearly not fat, no matter how many times you tell her) hate burgers and beer because it's fattening? Well take your mates for a burger crawl at Huxtaburger, Mr. Burger and Beat Box Kitchen (at The Rooftop Bar). Did your ex hate Korean BBQ because it makes her hair smell? Got to Wooga or Joomak and grab a mouthful of kimchi and bimbimbap.
3. Movies at Nova Cinema
Tucked inside Lygon Court, this cinema is a gem. Don't expect big action, blockbuster movies. This is where indie and festival movies are screened, where all the movie-literate goes. The theatres are small and the chairs are comfy. Plus you can buy alcohol at the bar and drink it while attending the screening. Bring a date? Probably too early for that. Remember the last time you chat with your girlfriend during a movie? No? Well good, that's because you're not suppose to talk in the movies. So why not watch a movie alone? Besides you don't have to watch all those chick-flicks now. Plus, watch how they handle break-ups in the movie world, maybe then you can appreciate how much simpler things are in real life.
4. Cheers, it's a celebration! (Kinda)
courtesy of news.com.au
Celebrating the fact that you are single is important. More time with friends, more time to make friends. But don't overdo it with the whole celebration, especially if it's too early. Because the chances are, you're still not over her yet. And you will regret what you did that night.
Bars instead of clubs is recommended. Why? Well because you can actually talk to people in bars and not have to pretend like you heard what they said even though you clearly didn't, like you do in clubs. And of course, bring your friends. This is your chance to catch up with all those friends you ignored while you're so busy with your ex. They miss you, they just don't tell you.
Luckily, Melbourne has so many bars to go to. The Rooftop Bar at the Curtin House is always a good choice. Of course, if you feel like dancing later, you can always go downstairs to the Toff. If you like music gigs, go to The Corner Hotel at Richmond. If you want something a bit fancy, go to Madam Brussels near the Parliament building and have a garden party. Because nothing says 'I don't care' like partying it up on a rooftop garden while seeping warm alcoholic beverages served on some fancy cups.
5. Lollygagging at Fitzroy
There's loads of cool shops, cafes, restaurants and bars here, Melburnians who says otherwise are just weird. Give us a favour, and just get lost in Brunswick and Smith Street. There's always something to distract you. Seriously, forget her, go thrift shopping instead.
Melbourne is a kind city, let it help you forget her/him. There are always plenty of art and music festivals, and other activities for pretty much anyone. Keep yourself busy, surround yourself with friends and spend more time outside of your house. One day you'll bump into your ex on Swanston Street, and find yourself not really caring (in a good way).