I am a writing Novelist from Austria - www.bettinabuechel.com/entangled_souls.asp - I am living in South Australia since December 2010 and enjoy it a lot. Besides this I look after a small vineyard - www.lot333wines.com.au
Published November 13th 2012
Be more with less
The silliness of busyness is that sometimes you are so busy that you will not even recognize that you are in trouble. You are so overwhelmed with work that you can't figure out how to change your situation. On the contrary, you are so used to being busy that you create more work, to make your life even busier. I had such a time in my life and it was not one of the best, but I've learned a lot from it.
If you have the feeling of being in such a situation, you should do something about it early.
The following habits are signs that you could be lost in the silliness of busyness.
1. Your usual response to "How are you?" is "so busy", "crazy busy" or "busy but good".
2. You spend time worrying about how busy you are going to be tomorrow.
3. You get angry when your spouse or friends aren't as busy as you.
4. Your busy life keeps you up at night thinking about everything you didn't get done.
5. You make a point of letting people know that you stay at the office after hours.
6. You check email several times a day.
7. You zone out during conversations thinking about everything you have to do.
8. You make list after list to make sure you don't forget anything during your busy day.
9. You regularly eat in your car.
10. You use a phone in the car because "it's the only time you have time to talk".
If you are someone like me, then you are busy because you want to be busy, or because you do not know how to be idle. From a misguided sense of guilt you think if you do enough, you are enough. If you have decided that it is ok to live a life in your way, then you can start to deal with things that are really important. You can talk about your meaningful day instead of ranting about your busy schedule.
How to be less busy
1. Be unproductive on purpose
2. Check your e-mail only once a day
3. Delete an e-mail immediately from your mailbox that you do not need to read
4. Turn your phone and computer off when you aren't working
5. Turn everything off in the car (except the car itself)
6. Put your I-Pad down
7. Do less to be more
8. Stop trying to keep up, measure up or catch up
While you may think that you are making sacrifices for others by working so hard, you are probably sacrificing the same relationships, that you think to save. Take your time to consider what is most important to you. Then do that first. The rest can wait. And your life will be much easier.
Great topic. I'm definitely guilty of 7. Good tips about the email. My own busyness is more child related than technology related and I can't really do much about that but wait until they grow up. But it's a good kind of chaos so I don't really mind.