Valentine's Day is not only made for rejoicing your beloved's presence in your world or an excuse to eat heart-shaped chocolate and wear red, but it's also a mirror that reflects your special treats, helping you fall head over heels for yourself.
In order to love someone else, you have to love yourself first, in order to put your heart on your sleeve; you've got to know what's under or else you'll take the lead in another Runaway Bride movie.
I am not an expert in self-help and I am not a wizard in the matters of the heart, but I have read, seen and heard a lot. My three years away from my home, family and friends made me realize that I have to self- reconcile in order to survive and you won't imagine how challenging it is for me to get to like myself a little by little every day. And every time I give into obscurity and self-destruct, I always remember my mother's words "make peace with you".
First you've got to avoid;
o Saying "I am sorry" too much and clarifying your actions. o Beating yourself up for every mistake even if it was tiny. o Conjuring your childhood fears and lifetime failures. o Recalling people who betrayed your trust.
o Seeking self-destruct and leaning towards bad choices. o Putting your needs the last of your list. o Regretting your bad choices and crying over spilt milk.
o Questioning your capabilities every now and then.
o Living with the ghosts of the past.
o Holding grudges against people you care about.
o Comparing yourself to others.
If you'd avoid the above then you're ready to try the below:
Let the sunshine; the moment you wake up, open the curtains and enjoy the sun, the nature, the skies and listen to the humming birds.
It's Thanksgiving morning; take 5 minutes each morning to write down the things you're happy about and the special things you've done the night before.
Start your day with smile; just smile as you get out of bed and you'll notice the mood change.
Burst the negative bubbles; instead of thinking that you can't do this anymore and that your life is a total mess, simply turn them around into life is hard but I can beat up the challenges and live happily ever after.
Halt emotional analgesics; don't seek happiness through junk food, chocolate munchies and malls.
Try something new; learn a new language or a new dance, visit a new hangout, play a new instrument.
Start working out; follow an everyday exercise routine or join a near gym.
Grade A list; make a list of all the things you love about yourself and place them in a visible place for you to see every day.
Inspire yourself; read positive quotes, write whatever quotes motivate you best on post-its and place them on your computer, fridge, the inside of your wardrobe.
Hello "No": practice saying "no", because it's okay to say no, when you feel like it. Don't become a "yes" person who would do anything to make people love you; they have to love you for who you are not what you do for them.
Be nice; derive your happiness from other people's happiness by doing nice things to people that you care about and treating strangers with respect.
All is forgiven and forgotten; learn from your mistakes, forgive yourself and move on, don't over dwell on them and live in their shadows.
You can also;
o Listen to a song or some music that you love and dance on.
o Sing in the shower or while you're cooking.
o Learn to relax and enjoy life, without letting fear getting the best of you.
o Play with your kids and laugh with them.
o Watch Tom and Jerry with your kids.
o Make flowers your constant décor.
o Speak up and allow yourself to be seen, known and heard.
o Indulge with friends 'cause they make you love yourself more.
o Believe in your gut feeling.
o Change your hair style and color.
o Follow your dreams even if it means getting close enough.
o Watch F.R.I.E.N.D.S on your laptop.
For Women only! Beat up PMS black cloud:
Yes, PMS is a mood swinger, anger booster and all day tiresome. You tend to be a tat down, empty and suspicious; thinking that the whole world rejects you and you have nothing to entice you anymore, but try to control this urging feeling to visit your lake of tears every 4 to 3 hours and follow these homemade tips;
o First and most important is to warn people of your upcoming bad mood.
o Increase your regular intake of water; it gets rid of PMS bloating and hovering sadness.
o Drink cinnamon tea or just chew cinnamon sticks and a cup of hot mint; it's always a mood altering for me and the cinnamon helps the tummy cramps.
o Get moving and engage in some slight workouts like walking. And do Yoga for a relaxed mood.
o Try to take house shores timeout during PMS.
o If you feel like crying, sit in your room and give it a go to release the glum beast in a controllable environment.
o You'd probably feel irritable all day, so stay away from anything that promotes this; go out for a walk, ask your husband to hang out with his friends, leave the kids with your parents or take the day off work.
o Listen to music while cooking or cleaning up (if you have to do house shores that day).
o Go to the nails saloon and get a pedicure.
o Apply moisturiser on your body after shower.
o Include colors in your daily dish.
o Stop worrying about PMS all day and keep yourself busy.
o Watch your all-time-favorite chick flick or comedy shows.
o Lavender is your best friend at this point. So use its smell to help calm you down.
o Junk food doesn't help; it makes you prone to irritability.
o Of course wear comfy cloth.
o Put some make-up on, a new outfit and spritz a perfume for a mood boost.
Last but not least, always have self-esteem and never doubt your capabilities, 'cause every person has been born for a reason to fulfil, so you do matter and you deserve to be loved by you.