Dancing at the Pity Party: A Dead Mom Graphic Memoir is an autobiographical graphic novel written and illustrated by writer and illustrator, Tyler Feder. It is 208 pages long and was published by Penguin Random House on 14 April 2020. Dancing at the Pity Party tells the story of Tyler's relationship with her super cool mother, Rhonda, and how her diagnosis and death from cancer in her late forties changed Tyler's life forever. Dancing at the Pity Party is a breathtaking book about a daughter's love for her mother. Feder has written a refreshingly honest memoir about love, grief and loss that can only be described as a celebration of her mother's life. It is devastating and both unspeakably beautiful at the same time.
Feder shares the gut-wrenching story of her mother's cancer journey, from when her earliest symptoms began, to her first oncology appointment, to her death in hospital, how Feder got through her funeral and then what it was like for her to face the prospect of continuing on with the rest of her life as a motherless daughter. Feder states that she wrote Dancing at the Pity Party for anyone who is struggling with a loss, who just wants someone to understand what they are going through, to get it. It was hard not to read this book without feeling sad.
Dancing at the Pity Party was an excellent book. I love how Feder used humorous reflection to explore the topic of cancer, her mother's death and her grief about navigating life as a motherless daughter. Her book has definitely resonated with readers who have shared similar losses in their own lives. The book has been called "healing" and "deeply moving" and many readers expressed their gratitude towards Feder for writing about such an emotional topic with such honesty and love. Dancing at the Pity Party is a must-buy for people who love emotional and beautiful graphic novels and for anyone who has ever suffered a loss.