A freelance writer living in Perth, WA. My blog is coming soon. Watch this space!
Published February 18th 2012
Confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared. Everyone needs a confidence boost now and then but low self-esteem can trip you up just when you need confidence the most. Confidence is all about how you think about yourself and how you see yourself but it's not always easy to think highly of yourself especially if you are in a bit of dark place. Confidence really is a skill that you can learn and it's all about taking control.
• Focus on the things you can do. Stop worrying about things you can't do, and focus on things you know you can do well. Don't say "I can't do that." Think about things you are good at and say "I can do that, and I can do it well."
• Dress Nicely. If you dress nicely you will feel good about yourself and have a more confident air about you. This doesn't mean you have to spend a fortune on clothes, just nice, neat, presentable clothes that you like will make you feel good.
• Get Motivated. Motivation is what gets you what you need or want so figure out what you want and work towards it. Think of all the things you have achieved so far and this will spur you on to achieve more.
• Think Positive. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Have a 'can do' attitude not a 'can't do' attitude. Remember all the things you are good at and tell yourself how good you are.
• Be Prepared. It's hard to be confident if you think you won't do well at something so if you have something coming up prepare yourself for it. Perhaps it's a job interview or a social situation, whatever it is if you are prepared you will feel more comfortable.
• Set Small Goals. Most people have huge goals to shoot for but for some people this can be daunting. Set yourself small goals, when you achieve them you will feel good and this will boost your self-confidence.
• Walk Like A Winner. The way you walk can show how much self-confidence you have. Don't slouch and shuffle when you walk. Hold yourself up and walk tall, walk with clear direction and purpose. Put a spring in your step you will feel better and more confident.
• Positive Affirmation. Having a positive outlook and believing in yourself is very important. Remind yourself with positive affirmations such as: When I believe in myself, so do others
• Do Something You Have Been Putting Off. If you have been putting something off that you just don't want to do, do it, make a positive decision and follow through. It can be something like calling a friend, cleaning the house, doing the gardening or organising your bills. You will feel better for it, it will give you a feeling of accomplishment and you won't have to keep thinking about it.
• Take Small Steps. Confidence is a skill that you can learn. If you have low self-esteem you can't fix it overnight but you can start to fix it by taking the first step. It might be learning something new, reading a book or taking a course but if you get the right skills, confidence will follow.
• Relax. If you are feeling low or anxious it can affect the way you feel about yourself. Stop thinking about things and relax. Try meditation or yoga or even a good night's sleep. When you are relaxed you are less emotional and can remember all the positive things about yourself and you feel more confident.
Some people seem to have loads of confidence, while other people struggle. Having confidence is all about feeling good and having the right attitude. If you feel bad you will think about all the negative things going on, if you feel good you will think about all the positive things.
It's not easy to build up your self-confidence and it will take time and persistence. One good way to start is to get together and talk to your closest friends or relatives. They know you best and they know what you are good at and what you are like. They will have you feeling better and give your confidence a real boost in no time.