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Published February 12th 2013
With restaurants and supermarkets exploding with red, hearts and balloons, I don't have to specially tell you that Valentine's Day is around the corner. Whether you are celebrating your new found love, your freedom from the last awful love, or an anniversary to your existing relationship, this is the day to celebrate love and romance.
That's more easily said than done for some of us. Let me put my grandma pants on and present you with some Valentine messages for everyone - and yes, that too through a list of movies.
The message: Never regret having fallen in love even if the relationship has ended because once you die you can't take the regret with you, but the moments of love you shared with your loved ones will stay with them forever.
Sorry to be starting off on a low key here. Keith tells us the story of a teenage boy who lived his life the way he wanted it to be. The movie takes us through the journey of how Keith teaches the 'academically perfect' girl in school to live her life, to question what she really wants and experience freedom because it is never too late to start living. Keith is an independent drama film and it had me addicted to the zest of living and passion portrayed by the character Keith.
2. Along Came Polly
The message: Sh** happens! The sooner you accept it the faster you move on.
This hilarious movie stars Ben Stiller and Jennifer Aniston in the lead roles. Reuben is a risk assessment expert and his world comes crashing when he gets dumped during his honeymoon. For a person who analyses risk for a living, this comes down as an opportunity to re-examine his approach to life.
We all weigh the good and bad before making decisions especially the most important decisions in life like marriage. Along our carefully planned scenarios might be a few unknown surprises (some of which are very much unwelcome!). But the quicker you see them , accept them and learn to say "I don't know", the quicker you will recover.
The message: Can you love someone beyond their faults and shortcomings? Can you fall in love with someone with all your heart and trust your entire life with that person? You can be married to the richest person, to the most beautiful lady, or the most eligible bachelor but how many of us will have the guts to love back the person who loves us unconditionally despite his/her background?
I don't know about you but I have never been a big fan of Bollywood romantic movies. But there are exceptions to everything, and Barfi! is definitely a must-watch movie.
Barfi is deaf and mute and also very charming, smart and romantic. The story revolves around his life and relations with two girls, one of whom is autistic. The movie is a bundle of lessons and urges us to look within ourselves.
The message: Life is not always fair is it? Sometimes you can fight all you want and still there seems to be that unfilled void that keeps becoming bigger with each day.
This movie and its ending is as real as it can get. We all know relationships are tough and we have to fight through it to keep it alive and going. That's what we see Jacob and Ana do in this movie, where they keep fighting through the time, distance and people around them trying to keep the relationship going.
If you are expecting an happily ever after ending to this, then you are wrong. The movie ends in an unclear note with Ana's ban on visa finally lifted and she leaves her dream job, hometown and parents to be with Jacob. And in the last scene we see them not having the same spark they had during their initial years but them reminiscing over the memories of the wonderful days they have had over the years. Their future is unclear and it is going to be what they make it to be.
The message: Falling out of love is never by choice. It happens when your priorities in life or just the perspective of looking at life changes. And when it happens, don't be too hard on yourself. Learn to move on and take life as it goes.
This list would be void if I don't include at least one movie of Ryan Gosling. The movie portrays the life of Dean and Cindy, their past and present. This movie is an emotionally gripping post mortem of married life. Marriage or a relationship can be a horror to be living if you fall out of love with someone who loves you unconditionally.
Ryan Gosling plays the character of Dean who is a wonderful man, a romantic husband (and annoyingly sexy) who stepped up to raise Cindy's kid when she was just 17. But as years passed, he remained the same as someone without an ambition or drive. While Cindy now works as a nurse, they often quarrel over the fact that Dean is not working and is always drinking. Though I have seen and read many criticisms on Cindy's character , I don't personally think anyone is to be blamed for the failure of their relationship.
I am no love guru. I am just another girl who has fallen in and out of love, got hurt,and made decisions in life. some of which I can't even recollect the reason why I made them. But this Valentine's Day I can proudly say I have a few experiences in hand which I have liberally shared with you all here. I guess what I am trying to say is let's not let this Valentine's Day slip by as another day. Take it as an opportunity to embrace life, rekindle your love and reminisce in some of your old memories and make the dear old St. Valentine proud of his day.
Please share some movies which you thought should have been in this list and happy Valentine's day everyone.