An accomplished, well travelled writer and reviewer, Michele resides in Brisbane. Witty and highly articulate, her rivetting reviews show life through the eyes of a highly Gifted Adult viewing a world where she has an IQ in the top 1% of that world.
There's nothing more important to a musician than his music and his musical instruments. Buying only top of the range when you're multi-instrumental keeps you constantly poor as there's always something really expensive on lay by. However, this is justifiable as to make good sound and get gigs and go to jams, you need good gear. You need the best your money can buy which is sometimes the cost of a second hand car. This entails tight budgeting and cost cutting where you can.
It's nice to love and be loved back and love is a free phenomenon. The first area in your life where you can exercise brutal frugality is in your relationship. Using the right strategies, this can be done with a subtlety that makes you look healthy, creative and environmentally concerned especially if you live in West End.
There are some great free venues within snatching distance. Make regular use of them. Take her frequently to the Art Gallery, Museum of Modern Art and the Museum. There's some very costly stuff on show for free there and you can tell her that the more you go there as a couple, the more you are learning and sharing together and broadening your cultural knowledge base. On a hot day, you can take her for a dip or to grab some rays at Southbank Beach. The treacherous conditions are patrolled by a life guard. This gives the outing a dynamic, life threatening edge which raises excitement levels.
Never catch a bus or a taxi. Walk everywhere. You can say you are keeping fit and healthy and in shape. Never drive your old car anywhere except to collect your new instruments or get your drum kit to and from gigs, jams and band practice. It costs petrol, leaks oil and you don't want to land yourself some place where you have to pay for parking. If you don't pay, you may incur a budget strangling fine or find yourself doing community service when you should be practising.
In your man bag, always carry one or two bottles of water refilled from the water filter at your place. This eliminates the expectation that you will purchase cappuccinos. Tell her water is healthier and has no calories. Meanwhile for atmosphere you can sit and drink your water at the tables and chairs of various outdoor cafes. If someone comes to take your order say, "Not yet." Three Monkeys cafe in West End is so big and rambling that you can take your water inside and go unnoticed as you take in the wooden and Persian décor.
The library is another great place for a date. Let her choose a book and borrow it on your card. It's just like buying her a book she likes but it's free. Make sure you return the book on time to avoid a fine. Sit her on a cushion at bus stop where she'll be fine while you busk on a nearby corner for three hours.
Take her along to your acupuncture appointment. It's in a converted old house which is renovated up to the minute. The waiting room is trendy, the chairs great to relax in and there's piles of magazines for her to pore through. By the time you emerge, she will feel like she's been on an expensive cruise.
The big lizard on Boundary Street is a funky place to sit together during the day. You can make it an ambient, romantic place to feel your love at night. Take a small candle, an incense stick and pull a flower from someone's yard. The smell of the incense, the flicker of the candle and the flower screams romance.
In winter you can head to Mowbray Park with a thermos of herbal tea and a torn blanket to sit on. There, just the two of you all rugged up against the biting wind, sitting cross legged and sipping hot tea from a thermos, it's a real 'Breakfast at Tiffany's' moment.
Make her home made pumpkin soup at your place. The compost heap has sprouted organic vegetables amongst the rotting scraps. Pick her a big, fresh pumpkin and get to work. If you want to be really romantic, pick a red geranium from next door's yard and put it in her hair. Pick her a bunch of herbs. There's romantic folk songs about doing that.
Every Friday night, take her out to dinner. The Soup Kitchen serves free meals and there's fold up tables and chairs. The meals are healthy and nutritious. She doesn't need to know the ingredients and the bread rolls came from dumpsters.
All that matters is that you love each other and are spending quality time together and she won't notice you are spending nothing. Just keep calling her, "Babe" and "Doll" and she'll keep getting into your bed at night.